I woke up this morning at 4:30 and went to the gym. Made breakfast and got ready for work. Work from 8-1:45. Went to the grocery store to get a few things, then home to cook dinner and meal prep just a tad, and then took a power nap that was only 45 minutes long…if that. (Bubba cuddles got the best of me!) Then I went back to work from 4:30-8:30. And now here I am! So maybe I could’ve fit this in instead of taking a nap, but 45 minutes isn’t long enough for me to write this post.
Anyways, this is my first woman crush Wednesday post, yay! And it is featuring my beautiful older sister Shelby Leigh Marcey. I have lived with Shelby nearly my entire life (still not sure how!), and I am blessed that this wonderful lady turned out to be my best friend. We can definitely get on each other’s nerves, bicker here and there, but at the end of the day, I wouldn’t change my sister at all.
So I am not entirely sure how I want to work these posts, so who knows, every week it might be a little different! But all in all, I am asking my woman crushes a bunch of questions about different topics, hoping that maybe their story will inspire someone, because they sure inspire me!
My lovely sister is 24 years old, a NIGHT SHIFT RN for a hospital down in Savannah, Georgia, and she owns the (second) cutest pug in the world. She spends her time drinking wine, crocheting, and getting on her husbands nerves ;). But just like everyone, she has had tough times too. Sure she was lucky enough to marry her high school sweetheart, be loved by every person she has ever met, been blessed as an athlete, and was able to ace any test given to her, but we all have our downfalls.
You can totally tell Shelby is my sister too, when I asked her what he favorite part about being a nurse is, her answer was helping people. Her favorite quote is do all things with kindness, which I love, even when you are feeling your darkest emotions, you should always be kinder than you feel. THIS is the exact reason why she makes the best nurse, she lives for the rewarding feeling she gets when she walks in on a shift and her patients from the nigh before genuinely get excited. THAT is how you know you are impacting the lives of others!
An important question that I love to get different perspectives on is about health, mental and physical. Everyone goes though the challenge of being ‘healthy’ and we are all at different stages. Maybe Shelby’s advice can help you.
How do you stay in good health? (Mentally AND physically)
“Nursing is emotionally draining (but also rewarding). Laughing is the best medicine. I love jokes and stories, and I love laughing at myself. Honestly, laughing can turn your whole day around. DO NOT TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY! Physically, I have been on such a rollercoaster. I go through phases of my exercise routines being on point, but my diet is off and vice versa. Over the last month my diet has really been cleaned up (minus starbursts when I work at night….) and with the help of Kylie, I have really put a focus on my exercise. Updates to follow…”
What has been your toughest challenge thus far in life?
“I am lucky to say there have not been too many challenges in my life that have affected me in a negative way, except the death of my grandma. Other challenges such as becoming a nurse, moving away from home, getting married, my husband deploying are all things that are a part of life and are hard in the moment, but they only have made a stronger person. I was extremely close to my grandma. She passed away about 8 months before my wedding. I was so upset because she wouldn’t get to see me walk down the aisle or hold my babies, but then I realized I was being very selfish. She got really sick, really fast. It was a blessing she passed away peacefully, holding the hands of my mother and my aunt. Of course, she could have fought it hard (and she would have), but odds are she would not have had the same quality of life. She wouldn’t have been happy living like that, and it would have been really had to watch her slowly die. This took me a couple years to come to this place, and I can look back on our time together and enjoy my memories without as much pain or hurt. But I am crying writing this… :)”
You could ask 70% of my family that question and everyone would answer the same way.
I think this had to be my favorite question/answer of the interview…
What are some changes you would make looking back now through your tough times?
“I don’t know if I would make any changes. The anger and hurt are all part of the healing purpose. I had to work through all of those emotions, in order to get to the peaceful place I’m at now.”
I think it is beautiful when people start to realize that all emotions are necessary in life. We as humans were born to FEEL all emotions, when you come to terms with realizing this; it makes dealing with the harder emotions, easier.
If you could give advice to someone whom is going through a similar situation as you did, what would you say to him or her?
“YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT THROUGH. YOU WILL. DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELF, IT’S GOING TO HURT AND YOU ARE GOING TO CRY. YOU NEED TO WORK THROUGH THOSE FEELINGS. If you don’t ever face the root of what your problem is, you will never heal. The process is painful, and you wouldn’t make true change if it was an easy one.”
Thank you for your interview Shelby, I appreciate it. If you want to share your story, send me an email/leave a comment and I will get in contact with you! I would love to hear what inspiration you have hidden away… let it shine!
PS- I just want to point out that I had to go through this entire blog post and erase Shelby Leigh PETERS.... I WILL ALWAYS MAKE THE MISTAKE! So, if you see Shelby Leigh Peters anywhere... I am sorry for the confusion!! I am so glad I didn't post it before I realized haha!