If you don’t want people to find out, then you probably should be doing it.
All. Time. Favorite. I read this once and I never forgot it. If you can’t go around telling people about something, then why are you doing it in the first place? If you have to try to hide something, why are you involved? Yes, I added in the word probably because this obviously does not count for things like surprises and what not, but when you start lying to others or even just steering away from the truth, you know you are not doing the right thing. Deep down you know the truth, it is up to you to listen to it, but when someone speaks up and brings out that truth, I hope you don’t get angry at them and defend you hidden actions because there is a reason you wouldn’t admit to it in the first place.
You can’t do everything. You can’t help everyone.
I know I have said before that can’t is not in my vocabulary, and I guess in a sense that is true. For some reason even though I know I cannot help everyone, I still try. I constantly put myself in the situation where I put so much energy in to helping others, and I usually end up falling flat on my face. Why? Easy. Not everyone wants your help. Not everyone is ready for change. And I always say that I am going to keep working at it because being able to even instill the slightest bit of happiness in others is worth it, but I am starting to quickly change my mind on that. Slowly but surely I am learning the art of letting others come to me. You can’t keep wasting time and energy on people who do not want to change. It is going to just keep pushing you around in a circle. I guess the moral of this is to always help others when possible, but don’t be surprised when your efforts don’t make change.
Reverse the roles.
How would you feel on the other side? Sure, where you are the grass is green and I am sure there is sunshine, ice cream, and probably millions of sunflowers. I bet the weather is sunny and 75… but I can promise you on the other side there is a thunderstorm, it is probably freezing cold, and it’s dark. Think before you do/say. Would you enjoy they way you are treating others? “Take a walk in their shoes” that might be cliché but it is true. If you want respect from others, you need to give respect to others. You can’t expect people to respect you if you make decisions that are disrespectful.
You are defined by your actions towards others, not others’ actions towards you.
People may forgive you for the way you acted or for something you said, but they will not forget how you made them feel. Quite possibly, they may never forget what had happened. The way you treat others is a direct reflection as to how you would let them treat you. So honestly, it is pretty simple, just to treat others the way you want to be treated.
What others think of you is none of your business.
I love this quote because I used to have an issue with this. I used to feel the need to have everyone like me. I wanted everyone to be my friend and to be on everyone’s good side. Somewhere down the road this year, that changed. I gave it up. I realized that it was exhausting trying to please everyone. I was putting more time and effort into pleasing everyone else than I was pleasing myself. One thing that I envy about Rachel is that she truly does not care what anyone thinks about her. She knows sometimes she is about to walk into a room of people who do not like her, and she can still walk in the room with a smile on her face. She has always been that way and it is a beautiful quality to have. Me? My new philosophy? I don’t make small talk. I am done with meaningless conversations that have nothing to do anything, and I am most certainly done with trying to impress and be friends with everyone. I have no problem being on my own, although I know that I am not alone; the thought of being alone does not scare me anymore. I overcame the fear or not being accepted. I have finally accepted myself and it is one of the most freeing feelings in the world. I get done what needs to be done and I leave. When you start spending less time trying to be friends with everyone, you realize that the few friends you do have are the ones who accept you just the way you are.
Last but not least, listen to your gut.
Your gut knows best. No matter how good something looks, if you gut is telling you no, you need to respect that. Your gut is your intuition and I know mine is always right. Do I always listen to it? Hell no. Honestly, I don’t even know why my intuition sticks around. I try so hard to follow its guide but to be honest; when I end up looking for it I think that I only find my desire. All in all, your gut is always right, it knows what is best for you. You can obviously make the decision to go against your gut, and more power to you on that, but one thing I know for sure is the times that my intuition has talked to me, it has never steered me wrong. You know right from wrong. Your intuition is just there to remind you.
So that is pretty much what I have for today! Hope everyone has had an awesome Saturday. Time to get some sleep so we can make tomorrow a kick ass Sunday!