I am a very independent person. Sometimes it is hard for me to grasp the concept that not everyone is as independent as I am. Let me elaborate. To me, the three components to being independent in my eyes are happiness, self-sufficiency, and confidence.
Happiness.
Happiness is crucial in nearly every aspect of life. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. Relying on someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad. YOU make the decisions in your life and YOU have to go to sleep at night thinking about those decisions you made. If you make every decision based off the fact you are scared to move forward in life, you will never be happy. Just because 2 people are physically 30 years old, does not mean they both have a mental age of 30 as well. Sometimes we grow and mature quicker than others, there is nothing wrong with that. But for your own happiness, surround yourself with people who are closer to your mental age, it will save your sanity.
Self-sufficiency.
In my world, self-sufficiency means that you can function on your own without the help of others. It means that you can eat alone in a restaurant and feel completely content with life. It means you can live on your own and thrive. You do not need the help from others like you think. You were given your own brain, your own hands, and your own soul… use them. When people start living together I feel this is a quality that most people lose. It is easy to become self-dependent on others, and usually it happens without us even knowing. You were born with the ability to be self sufficient, but when you start relying on others for everything, you cannot except to keep this quality. If you want something, you need to practice it everyday… just like everything else.
Confidence.
Confidence is a tricky one. Confidence is something we learn. We learn to believe in ourselves. Confidence is easy to gain and easy to lose. If you surround yourself with people who make you feel less than 100%, how are you ever supposed to be confident? Once we learn that people change, feelings change, and life changes. It speeds up the process of growing.
Sometimes setting yourself free from the negativity is the mature thing to do. The right thing is always, always, always the hardest thing to do. But it is the 100x better to move forward, do the hard thing, and become stronger, than it is to stay where you are, do what you know, do what is easy.
Your comfort zone is easier to come out of than you think.
It’s never too late to make a change. You could be anything. You have the ability to change this world, but the only thing holding you back, is yourself. Think back to the last time you were riding cloud nine, CARE FREE, and loving. THAT is what life is about. We were put on this earth to make a difference, but to also love life in the process. Don’t forget to put your life first. Live carefree and easy during your childhood and 20s and settle down when you’re ready. Every minute that passes by, you will never get back. So that time you spend frustrated, unhappy, pointing fingers at others, and arguing… is time that you are putting off your happy life. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to and that is okay. You can’t force anything… Well, I guess you can, but you will get nowhere...
You’ll be back at the beginning of the circle you just drew.
Acceptance is what makes us grow. When you learn to accept the changes in life, you will learn to let go. And the feeling of letting go is beautiful. You simply glow with fiery passion and radiance. Stop putting off this feeling.
Your day is today. So my question for you is, will you take the step to becoming the person you’ve always wanted to?
Happiness.
Happiness is crucial in nearly every aspect of life. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. Relying on someone else to make you happy is the best way to be sad. YOU make the decisions in your life and YOU have to go to sleep at night thinking about those decisions you made. If you make every decision based off the fact you are scared to move forward in life, you will never be happy. Just because 2 people are physically 30 years old, does not mean they both have a mental age of 30 as well. Sometimes we grow and mature quicker than others, there is nothing wrong with that. But for your own happiness, surround yourself with people who are closer to your mental age, it will save your sanity.
Self-sufficiency.
In my world, self-sufficiency means that you can function on your own without the help of others. It means that you can eat alone in a restaurant and feel completely content with life. It means you can live on your own and thrive. You do not need the help from others like you think. You were given your own brain, your own hands, and your own soul… use them. When people start living together I feel this is a quality that most people lose. It is easy to become self-dependent on others, and usually it happens without us even knowing. You were born with the ability to be self sufficient, but when you start relying on others for everything, you cannot except to keep this quality. If you want something, you need to practice it everyday… just like everything else.
Confidence.
Confidence is a tricky one. Confidence is something we learn. We learn to believe in ourselves. Confidence is easy to gain and easy to lose. If you surround yourself with people who make you feel less than 100%, how are you ever supposed to be confident? Once we learn that people change, feelings change, and life changes. It speeds up the process of growing.
Sometimes setting yourself free from the negativity is the mature thing to do. The right thing is always, always, always the hardest thing to do. But it is the 100x better to move forward, do the hard thing, and become stronger, than it is to stay where you are, do what you know, do what is easy.
Your comfort zone is easier to come out of than you think.
It’s never too late to make a change. You could be anything. You have the ability to change this world, but the only thing holding you back, is yourself. Think back to the last time you were riding cloud nine, CARE FREE, and loving. THAT is what life is about. We were put on this earth to make a difference, but to also love life in the process. Don’t forget to put your life first. Live carefree and easy during your childhood and 20s and settle down when you’re ready. Every minute that passes by, you will never get back. So that time you spend frustrated, unhappy, pointing fingers at others, and arguing… is time that you are putting off your happy life. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to and that is okay. You can’t force anything… Well, I guess you can, but you will get nowhere...
You’ll be back at the beginning of the circle you just drew.
Acceptance is what makes us grow. When you learn to accept the changes in life, you will learn to let go. And the feeling of letting go is beautiful. You simply glow with fiery passion and radiance. Stop putting off this feeling.
Your day is today. So my question for you is, will you take the step to becoming the person you’ve always wanted to?